Being a Healer: The Healer's Journey
Being a healer doesn’t mean that you are “healed” or have
it all “together”. Rather it means that you've dedicated your life to being on a
perennial journey of self-discovery, learning, healing, seeking, unfolding,
transforming, etc. and feel called to support others from the well of wisdom
deepened along the way.
A healer is committed to their own inner work and honors the
times when they are called to take deeper dives for more exploration of their
wounded/gift-bearing places in order to surface with more awareness, compassion
and additional gifts gathered from being with what surfaces.
With willingness and surrender, they drop deeper roots and
scatter seeds of possibilities as they grow through difficult times trusting
that the time spent working with “what is” will yield a bountiful harvest of fortified
insights and blessings to nourish others and themselves with.
During the times requiring deeper inner work, they may
need to withdraw their energies from previous activities and connections they
once felt called to in order to tend to the greater need inside of them.
They learn to recognize the cycle of transformation they
are in and regulate their energy accordingly.
When their well is full, they easily and willingly overflow their
compassion, love, support, and gifts with vibrant energy and joy in support of
others. When the well is dry, and a healer attempts to still give in that same
way, they will find their own energy and health compromised and instead of joy
they may feel obligated and even feel resentful.
When any emotion like resentment, or a feeling of energy being
drained occurs, it is an indicator that the healer’s well is running low and a reminder that in order to be a healer, one must stay attentive to their own
needs of healing and restoration.
This awareness and commitment to honoring their own self-care needs develops a "gifted healer". One who is giving from their gifts and not their wounds. The gifted healer is rebirthed out of the wounded healer. Both are powerful and both can be effective in supporting others, but the latter way is at the healer’s expense.
The wounded healer gives by sacrificing themselves; the gifted healer shares their gifts from their overflow and practices being of service.
The wounded healer unconsciously drains their own energy and
gives away all of their own “soul medicine” without first offering it to themselves.
Soul medicine is the term I use to describe the unique gifting hat comes out of
our wounded experiences. It is comprised of qualities and ways of being that we
needed as children but didn’t receive. If a child was neglected, as an adult
their soul medicine/gifting might be being present to others. Or if they were
exposed to a lot of anger and criticism, their unique tonic might be kindness and
encouragement.
I’ve witnessed this phenomenon over and over again
throughout my 19 plus years on the healer's path as a Transformational Hypnotherapist and of course, throughout my own healing and restoration journey.
Wounded healers often skip over themselves to offer their
soul medicine to others while they are themselves parched and in need.
The healer’s journey will offer many opportunities for them
to become aware of their soul medicine and prompts to drink from their own well.
They become more adept at practicing
this vital step in being a healer once they recognize their soul medicine was
first and foremost a special brew distilled for their own healing.
This awareness often arrives after a health crisis and/or a challenging time when the healer is returned to their essence and offered the clarity of awareness that comes from being stripped away from all that kept them safe inside their previous conditioned way of being.
The healer must learn to offer themselves a seat at the
banquet table of their own gifts and wisdom to be nourished and supported by it
as swiftly and as compassionately as they would for someone else in need.
When the healer’s daily practice includes this level of
presence and support for their own journey, the gifts they offer to others
become richer, sweeter, more meaningful and offered from a heart of compassion
that includes all…especially themselves.
This has been my experience as a healer on the Healer's Journey. I would love to hear about yours. In support of the journey!
This has been my experience as a healer on the Healer's Journey. I would love to hear about yours. In support of the journey!
Soul Musings are just that, “musings”. Not advice, just an exploration of my own journey with some transformational concepts sprinkled in to support others along the way!
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