Relationship Fizzle:: Soul Nourished or Empty Calories?

My relationship is fizzling and I find myself analyzing what's going on and if I should continue with it.  

Now before my close friends get concerned, I'm not talking about my actual relationship.  Thankfully all is well with my love! I am referring to my relationship with Facebook.

My courtship with FB developed slowly after I had held my electronic suitor off for years questioning its intentions and purpose.  Even after many of my friends were actively involved!  I had some doubts, and some fears, but I was still intrigued.  Mostly I didn’t get it. What would be the point of me being on Facebook?

Eventually an intention arrived in my heart that matched my life mission and I took the plunge.  My life has been about seeking out uplifting, inspirational, soul connecting, healing, transformational material to better my life and the life of others.  This way of being became my life’s work as a Transformational Hypnotherapist.

My resistance shifted when I saw FB as a beautiful platform to reach and inspire others with messages of hope, love, healing, gratitude, celebration of the journey, perseverance and reaching beyond our present circumstances to something higher.  I witnessed others holding this intention as well and I signed up and began my affair with Facebook. 

The honeymoon period was glorious!  I was connecting with like hearted individuals.  Sharing and receiving inspiration. Feeling more a part of my friends/family’s lives with each picture they posted and each snippet of their life they shared.  I discovered that I could create a “page” for my business and it provided a greater outreach to possible new clients and a way to connect with current clients.  Everything seemed perfect…so it seemed.

It was love and when we fall head over heals in love, we often overlook things that matter and just take the ride! 

Currently, my love for Facebook is fading and I find myself avoiding my beloved FB more and more.   

The joy of creating inspirational posts and sharing them has shifted into a sense of apathy.  Does anyone look at these anyway?  Do they really make a difference?  Does anyone really need to see pictures from bits of life?  Does anyone else really need to know my thoughts and what I am doing with my life?   
The question that resonated the most through my query...   

Is this real connection?

I’ve kept the relationship going even though at times I’ve often felt disillusioned, lonely, disconnected from my vision, myself and others.  What was happening? 

I got curious about why I was becoming so apathetic towards my involvement with my electronic love.  

A spontaneous imagery occurred in which I saw a buffet table of picked over food and lots of junk food.  Huh?  What was my soul showing me?  Then I got it.  It felt like the message was that some of us might be trying to get our essential soul nutrition of connection, belonging, acceptance, inspiration and love artificially and we are still starving for what we really need.  

 

Binging on Facebook for me is like eating a huge meal of mostly empty calories and still being hungry for something more! And scrolling through the myriad of posts can feel like standing in front of a refrigerator with the door open knowing you're  hungry for something and hoping you'll find it! 

Has this artificial way of “connecting” disconnected us from ourselves and from others?  Is it preventing us from meeting our real needs?

 

I’ve noticed that less people show up for classes/gatherings that my fiancee, Ben (who is also a life coach) and I offer. We have less direct interaction with others whether it be on the phone or in person. My phone used to ring all the time, not so much anymore. I receive lots of text messages, but that is also one step removed from direct connection.  Or as Ben reminds me, “that’s not real communication!”

Perhaps the desire for connection with others gets satisfied (although I would speculate not fulfilled) from back and forth conversations via comments or friends “liking” a recent post and just knowing there is a way to remotely drop in on the lives of those we care about. 

I’m sitting with how to move forward and whether or not the relationship with my electronic partner will continue.  Applying some relationship advice to keep the connection going for now, I am focusing on what I do appreciate about my “partner”, and what is working.

I am grateful that I can have some sense of connection with friends and family, although my soul hungers for more.  I am grateful that I can reach out to my current clients and prospective clients through my page. 

And I do love creating inspirational posts, even if I’m the only one who sees them or appreciates them. They often come from a need my soul has or from something that surfaces during meditation.  It is my little offering in helping all of us move through challenging times, to stay focused on what’s important, what’s real and to keep growing! 

So, for now, even though my love has faded for Facebook, and I'm not craving what it offers as much,  I’m willing to hang in there, bring my best and see if we can rekindle our love affair.  


In the meantime, I will continue to create ways to nourish my soul with what it is really hungry for like more heart to heart, face to face connection, walks in nature with friends to align with our own true natures in real time. 

By avoiding that which distracts us from being present to our soul needs, we can cultivate and grow the most important relationship we will ever have...the one with ourselves.  A nourished soul is a potent place for possibilities to develop!

I'll still pop on to Facebook from time to time when I have a craving and just appreciate what's on the table for the day. My greatest hope is that I have something I can offer that reaches through this electronic medium and provides some nourishment for the soul!


How do you currently meet the needs of what your soul is truly hungry for?
 
What actions can you take to fulfill the cravings of your soul?

Soul Musings are just that, “musings”.  Not advice, just an exploration of my own journey with some hope sprinkled in to support others along the way!


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